Do you still struggle to believe that adults struggle to deal with the bullying that happened to them when they were younger? This video from Amir might help clear that up for you in three minutes. I find it very emotionally powerful.
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Hello dear reader. I know that people read this site and I only hope that I have held up my end of the bargain and have shared bullying stories and bullying information that helps you and/or others that need the help.
Of course, the irony for me is that I thought I had been strong enough to beat the things that happened to me when I was younger (for heaven’s sake, I’m 45 now) and that I could be here, release my childhood stories and get past what happened to me. But as was reported this year in a study bullying victims are more likely to have issues in life and mental disorders later in life as well. And even the bullies will suffer with life issues as well according to a study from Brown University.
I should have known it would not be that easy. I would say that 2013 might have been the worst year of my life. Early in 2013, I realized that the anxiety for me that would pop up once in a while in my life began to take over my life. At the extreme, which mine was for a while, it felt just as it did for Scott Stossel, who wrote a brilliant piece about his suffering in The Atlantic.
For me, it was a shock to the system that I have shared in previous articles. I have always been a confident and (I thought) capable social person. But a diagnosis of a stomach disorder for me in late 2012 changed everything. I let that issue get to my head and start to lead to all the decisions I made. I thought I would be sick in the stomach all the time. And when you think that, you can make it feel that way. So this anxiety that was always under the surface came full to the front of my life and overtook it. Even though I do what I do and want to share those experiences, this anxiety started to dictate my life, made me agoraphobic and pretty much as unhappy as I could be. Of course this affected greatly my life with my family and work. I was terrified I was ruining everything and it could never get better. I lost my faith. Was it due to the bullying earlier in life or purely on the diagnosis of my stomach, I’m not sure, but that’s what happened. And that makes a person depressed. That much I do know. I lost 20+ pounds in a month without even trying.
But fate always plays a big role in life. Due to my anti-bullying dedication, I had lots of friends in the mental health industry to help me think through the problem and talk to me to help lead me to make some better decisions. Today as I write this, I feel 100% better, but it took about a year and a lot of work. And this is only been a few weeks of feeling better. It can come and go and my job is to keep my stress low and fight my anxiety feelings as they come on. Everyone is different and all I can do is share with you the path I chose, with the help of caring people who helped guide me.
- Find professional mental health experts that can help you figure out a solution right for you. This may or may not involve medicine, but it should definitely involve talk therapy of some sort. You need a friend to talk to and professionals to share with. Talking helps so much. The funny part is as I shared this with my friends, they then shared with me that they also suffer. We do so in silence so much, because of the stigma we feel, but when you find out how many people suffer (20% at any time), you soon realize you are not alone.
- Make a change. I made many changes to my lifestyle. Here’s what I chose:
- Changed my diet to eat healthier and force myself to eat three good meals a day, even when I didn’t feel like it. One big change for me was to start drinking a Green Smoothie in the morning. It’s amazing how good it tastes and all the good things in it.
- Exercise – I can’t emphasize this enough! This may be the most important item. I try for daily 30 minutes. This is my free advice that any paid therapist will tell you. It is amazing for me what 30 minutes of cardio does for me and keeps me balanced mentally. Take a walk, join a gym, do Yoga, do what you like. Yes, I joined a gym. Yes, it’s not cheap. But it’s worth every penny if it helps me feel this way.
- Read lots and lots about what is going on for you and also try to read “happy” stories, instead of the ones that are negative.
- Stop or reduce watching the news – sorry news folks, but all that negativity in the news only adds to anxiety. It’s rare to hear good news on the news.
- Watch how much you use social media. If you use it, make sure that reading about other people’s life isn’t making your more depressed. New studies are coming out that are showing this might be the case.
- Face your worry and anxiety head on! Daily I say to mine to bring it on. Bring me your worst. Make my life miserable. And guess what, then it doesn’t.
- Look in the mirror and smile as big as you can and then tell yourself you can have a great day. You can, you have to let yourself. Believe it or not, smiling does help. OK, I know it sounds funny, but it works.
- Learn to breathe through anxiety. The techniques are in lots of books and websites, but here’s the trick. Use your diaphragm. Blow all the air out of your tight stomach. Then expand your stomach by breathing as much as you can through your nose. Hold for a second and the blow out your mouth. Do over and over until you feel better. Practice this, even when you are not anxious, so when anxiety comes you can do it without thinking. Do maybe ten reps of this every day maybe 10 times a day to get it to be a habit. You used to breathe like this when you were a baby, but we forget how as we get older. Learn again. They say you can’t have a panic attack if you breath through it like this. I find this to be truthful.
- Meditate – OK, so you think this is hard. We live in a society where running around is what we do. Take 20 – 30 minutes of your life to just sit quiet. I use an app called Calm.com and it works for me. There are so many apps to choose from, but I like this one. It has 2, 5, 10, 20 minute meditations. Just calming down and focusing on you is so helpful. I also like reading the Tiny Buddha site. It helps me stay focused.
- If necessary, get the professional mental health you need. I was lucky to find good people to share with. I won’t say anything about whether to take medicine or talk or what you choose. But there are professionals and they are waiting for you. Don’t trap yourself.
- Set future goals that you want. Maybe it’s a trip or to run a 5K or whatever it is. But have something to look forward to in the future and start planning. Not only will it help you keep your mind occupied, it will help you look forward to the future.
- Get out and do something. It’s the opposite of what you want to do, but keeping yourself busy keeps you from thinking about your issues and helps conquer the fears. Do things you want to do, but also be around others. It’s so important. You can get trapped in your bed and at home. It’s easy to do, so DON’T.
This is what I did and I’m only saying it worked for me. You will need to test everything. The only one I think is critical is exercise. But all of this is so important for your life and happiness. Sounds easy…NO! IT IS NOT EASY. It took me a year of trial and error to get this list of 11 things together. And this doesn’t mean I don’t have bad days, bad weeks, and I still won’t. Right now, it’s great. I feel like myself. But I know on any given day, that can change. I have learned that. And then I need to remind myself about the above items again.
I wanted to share this new year with you and also for myself, to resolve to have a better 2014. I hope my work, my family, and my friends have understood the last year and will stick with me for the ride ahead. If I have one worry, it might be that. But now, I am ready to face the day and the next day and the next. Here’s to a better 2014. Once you come to the bottom, there’s nowhere else to go but up. And I am looking forward to the daily adventure of learning to be better and better. I hope there’s something here to help you and please feel free to write to me and share. I am here to listen if you want to talk. That’s what this site is all about. Best wishes for you and those you care about.
I am blessed to have great friends over the years who have helped me continue to bring this website to you. One such friend from High School, Ken, is a film critic with his own blog called 1 More Film Blog. Ken and I share a passion for movies (in fact we may have skipped school once to catch Return of the Jedi).
Ken helped me reach out to DJ Caruso, a well known film director, who has just released in wide release a wonderful film about bullying and the ramifications of it called Standing Up. DJ has directed movies like Disturbia, The Salton Sea, Taking Lives, and Eagle Eye. But, for him, making Standing Up was a dream come true. The movie is based on the book called The Goats and for DJ, it’s been 11 years in the making. I had a chance to talk to DJ recently about the film and how the bullying theme affected his decisions to make the film and what it meant to him.
Bullyinglte: It’s an honor to get to talk to you about the movie you made, Standing Up, and that you are helping with the same causes that I’m focused on. I really appreciate that. I saw Standing Up on Netflix and read that it took about 11 years to get the movie together.
DJ: It was one of those situations where I read the novel (The Goats) way back when I was a PA and a reader when the novel first came out. It was one of those stories that stayed with me and was more like the movies that were being made in the 80’s. The type of young adult movies that I loved. John Hughes movies that had a soul and a heart that I feel today’s movies are lacking.
Every once in a while you’ll get a gem, but it’s really all about spectacle, so the novel stayed with me. I fell in love with the character Howie and if I could get a chance we could make it, I would. We shot it in 18 days and it was a labor of love, but at the same time, it was written 30 years ago and now with bullying and the cyber world, it’s even gotten worse. It just felt like the timing was right and having a few kids now who have had experiences, I felt it was time to step away from the Hollywood of it all to do something that I really wanted to do.
Bullyinglte: There seem be just a few movies that have a good message at the end for kids and the importance of that the way John Hughes did?
DJ: Yes. When you think about Ferris Bueller’s Day off and what Ferris did for his friend, the real theme is that Ferris is giving his friend an amazing gift. As entertaining as it is, it’s an incredibly smart movie that is laced with messages. And I’d rather watch those movies than the options that they have nowadays.
Bullyinglte: What I noted in standing up about Howie and Grace, like Ferris and his friend, is that there are kids that know how to handle conflict situations and diffuse them, and then there are kids and even adults that don’t have that capability. Did you recognize that theme as you were making the movie and where Howie’s strength came from with his ability to cope with more difficult situations?
DJ: I think that was definitely the intent. Howie was used to being that outsider and he had that experience of being that person. He has learned to live on fringe and learned to adapt and make things work and when the horrible things happen; he is already ahead of the plan and knowing what the bullies are thinking. So he has this intuitive skill. And the audience can feel from him that he has an incredible imagination and can find these new roads to take.
And Grace is not used to that, so she learns by the end to celebrate who you are and accept who you are. If you do that, then no matter what these people say or do, they won’t crush you. And on this journey, she learns that. She learns how to adapt. It’s funny to me how at the beginning of the movie she’s not well liked. You don’t necessarily like her. She’s had something horrible happen to her, but she’s not open and she’s not ready. She wants to go home and is complaining. And the gift she gets by the end of the movie then is the ability Howie gives to her.
Bullyinglte: The original book this is based on is called “The Goats” and there’s significance to that in that it’s what the bullies call the victims at the camp. What was the significance for you to change the title to Standing Up?
DJ: I didn’t want to change it, but unfortunately there are two other movies called “The Goats” and we weren’t allowed to use that title. Once we started to change it, we had to figure out a way to convey the spirit of the movie and other titles didn’t work out. It made them sound like the victims. They were downers, so Standing Up just felt like it was the right kind of message to get out.
We want families to want to watch this movie. Some of the letters I’ve gotten are so glowing. And when you deal with the subject of bullying, it’s so hard. I went and saw the “Bully” documentary, and it’s just so hard and I wanted mine to be a movie that people could talk about after. I have received numerous letters from parents that talk about how after watching the film, the entire family engaged in conversations about the bullying in their everyday lives. I wanted to make a movie like standing up that would leave a more positive message for families to watch together. For me the most important thing is that I felt this incredible kinship and my heart breaks all the time for victims.
So if you can make a movie about victims, but actually spend that private time with them to see what really shines and makes these kids special…and I think that’s what happens. The bullies never get to see that side, because of what’s going on in the school or the camp. For me it was to celebrate the spiritual and loving person these kids are and why you would want to damage these kids. It doesn’t make any sense..
It’s important that part of the preventative things that can be done are explored. If you are the person that does fit in, but isn’t a bully, that you can step in. I think it’s the bystanders that can help and not just say thank g-d it’s not just me. I used to go home when I was a kid and feel so bad for the victims. I think we need to find ways to understand.
Bullyinglte: There’s a lesson that teachers use called the crumpled piece of paper, where you write your name on a piece of paper than crumple it up and try to straighten it out. But you can’t ever get it back to straight. It’s an allegory on bullying. How does that tie in to your characters in Standing Up?
DJ: What I particularly felt with these characters is that you can have the damage, but also it can make you stronger on many fronts. Particularly what I wanted for the audience and the character of Grace in this dynamic of the movie is that…for Howie, he doesn’t have people to save them…but for Grace, it’s more about the journey and confidence she found.
I always felt that Grace, because of this, was going to be a more confident person and that she found herself along the way. It’s that you are able to be bullied and it’s not your fault but that you might not be so outwardly strong that people can prey on you. I would say 95% of the time, the people who are preying on others are making up for some inadequacy they feel about themselves, so they can make themselves feel good. So I felt like with Grace, there was some sort of growth of strength and hope from the immediate effects of the journey.
For Howie, there’s a bit more melancholy, a bit more sadness. I always felt it’s a little more realistic that Howie won’t be OK. So Grace found her confidence on this journey and might be less vulnerable. For Howie, the initial feeling might be ‘how do I move on? I’ll always be able to adapt. I’ll never be accepted or have a family.’ In a weird way, Howie is a great storyteller and great observer and that’s a kinship I feel with Howie. I was always observing and that’s how I felt as well.
Bullyinglte: I thought it very significant in the movie opening and closing scene, Grace is looking out the car window and you don’t really see the result. What was the significance of that opening and closing for you as the filmmaker?
DJ: It establishes her leaving the camp, and Grace reflecting back at a time in her life that, as horrible the situation was, what a gift Howie gave her. I wanted to be in Grace’s mind, because it was really about her growth. Howie didn’t have a huge amount of growth, but it’s really Grace who has the hope and growth and I tried to leave the idea of what the plan g-d might have for you and how certain things work.
I wanted to leave the message that sometimes these things happen and g-d has a way to take care of things and making things work. If you can learn from these things, then you can become a stronger person. And Howie gives Grace an amazing gift and I think that was very important.
In fact over the years, when we talked to other studios about the movie, they wanted The Goats to get revenge on the kids at the camp at the end and I told them that this is definitely not the movie where that happens. I always thought, my gosh, what screenplay did they just read that they want that to happen and what’s the message in that. You want to get beyond that. Bullying can become an endless cycle and that I thought it funny that the studios thought that.
Bullyinglte: How do you feel that, as a moviemaker, you are helping to resolve the issue of bullying?
DJ: Part of the responsibility is that people don’t like to have messages thrown in their face. People, in many cases embrace the outsiders in movies. People gravitate to these characters more than they do the good-looking star. So I think a lot of it is supporting those characters that are not necessarily the good-looking movie star type character. Making them interesting and making them compelling and have certain elements of what we find attractive. It’s their intelligence; they’re not in the norm.
The idea you want to spend time with people who don’t necessarily fit in. ..I think I wanted people to feel this. Those are the kinds of stories that I think we felt as kids. It all comes down to compassion and learning it’s OK to feel compassion.
There’s a boy who at first didn’t go to my son’s high school with a bunch of athletes. The boy didn’t get in right away. He was a little more of a theater guy and different and didn’t get in as a Freshman. But got in as a Sophomore. So on his first day, he wasn’t very uncomfortable and my son, the jock, athlete, baseball player just went up and gave him a big hug in the middle of all these kids. And his mother told me that her son told her that he did that and that it made him feel so good.
So he was nervous, because he didn’t feel like he fit in. But if people have the compassion to do this, because it was his very first day, his first minutes on the campus, he’s getting a hug from Mr. Baseball player, Mr. Popular…if you can teach your kids compassion it goes a long way.
Bullyinglte: I do believe that one person can make all the difference.
DJ: Yes, definitely. It really does take one person to make all the difference. I always hope that we can get back to the John Hughes type movies. There’s some good ones like Easy A or Perks of a Wallflower, and they just don’t get the attention they deserve.
Bullyinglte: How can people see the movie now?
DJ: Walmart embraced the movie at first and had exclusive rights, so it wasn’t in wide release. But now it’s available on iTunes, Amazon…it’s streaming all over the place. You can watch it on Netflix, you can watch it on Amazon and it’s available at the stores. You can now get Standing Up anywhere.
Bullyinglte: Well thank you for your time. I’m sure we could talk about bullying issues and John Hughes movie, but I thank you so much for your time. And thank you for making Standing Up, an important movie about bullying.
DJ: Thank you.
It was truly an honor to get to talk to DJ Caruso about his movie Standing Up and his candid sharing of his feelings on how bullying affects us. As a filmmaker, there is so much that can be done to help tell stories in a light that helps to show and resolve the bullying issue. I appreciate that DJ took the time to tell this story in Standing Up and hope you will take an opportunity to watch it and see the perspective he shared with me in our interview.
I was sent this video link to watch and wanted to share with you as well. Well done.
Lately I have been put into a situation to think a lot more about how the bullying that happens to some of us in our youth leads to long-term anxiety, phobias, and finally depression due to not being able to get it out of our heads. (Note here that, if this is you, I hope you will seek some help). Even though life might start to get better in the later years, these post-traumatic-stress disorders do not for many people. One part that fascinates me is the idea that some of us are wired maybe for this and may also be wired to react to bullying in a way that leads to further bullying and a further continuation of this cycle. Chiara shares her view on this and how it continues to affect us with her story. She also points out the importance of how different cultures in different parts of the world make this even more difficult. ~Alan Eisenberg
I’m a pin-up model that was born & raised in Germany. It didn’t even take me 16 yrs to figure out this country obviously isn’t where I belong. I already was the odd one out & a victim of constant bullying in elementary school, but the days I literally underwent hell definitely were my high school days.
It took only a few days before I started to get bullied & punched for the way I looked & the way I was. The first people to bully me were older girls who simply enjoyed assaulting the weak & helpless. But soon not only the entire school, but also the whole district had figured out I probably was the most timid, vulnerable & unique personality they’d ever met… In other words, they had finally found somebody to play on.
I used to like my tutor a lot during the 1st year. Unfortunately, my opinion changed dramatically when the nice lady started to bully me as well. It got worse every year. At age 13 I started to cut myself & got to feel the first signs of depression. My tutor’s & schoolfellows’ endless bullying reached the top when a bunch of girls – mainly two of my classmates – stole all my remaining friends & started being in cahoots with my tutor.
I ended up being stalked, blackmailed, threatened & fatally bullied not only by the whole school including its teaching staff, but also by the principal. I eventually changed schools in the middle of grade 9. I wouldn’t mind saying my new school was great. I actually totally loved it in the beginning. The staff was probably the loveliest one a student could wish for! And, apart from a few exceptions, all the students were friendly & treated me with respect.
But nevertheless, there was one thing that wouldn’t stop hunting & destroying me: The main reason why I’d been bullied at my first high school was the fact that people found me “ugly“, and nobody minded telling me, not even my “friends“. Whenever another student saw me they’d scream: “Ugly!!!“ or say to their pals: “Look, this is the ugly girl I told U ’bout!“ I knew that wasn’t over, despite my change of school & I was right.
By now it didn’t only happen at school but also whenever I was outside. Every single teenager or school child who saw me yelled the same old word: “Ugly!!!“ or something like: “Ew, look how ugly that girl is!“ I started to ask my schoolmates for their opinions; most of them answered: “Well yeah, in my opinion You’re ugly – but hey, only the character matters!“
While my depression was becoming more & more severe due to a whole lot of personal problems, now I also sensed the first signs of a social phobia which kept getting worse. Thank Goodness, I graduated shortly afterwards. The last few months of school were nothing but a torture.
By now I suffered from an extreme depression with physical impact, an anxiety disorder & a severe social phobia that doesn’t even allow me to do phone calls. I never leave the house, except for travelling or photo shoots – which can only be done at “teenager free“ times & along with somebody to protect me. I’d love being able to acquire a profession or visit a trade school like other people my age do.
I’m incredibly scared of my film studies that will start in Sept. … even though nowadays I’m aware the reason for my long-lasting suffering is the fact that Germany is a country where uniqueness is off-limits….. But hey at least my unbearable experience of life has brought me a kind of mission: Encouraging people who are in similar situations & being encouraged by people who have been in similar situations! I’ve created a website that isn’t only dedicated to my model work but also to my life story & the fact that I want to be an inspiration & hear other people’s stories. You can see it at: http://chiaral-chiara.wix.com/chiarathebat
Author Cat Blount has released a book for elementary school age children titled “What If I Was Bigger Than a Bully: Storyteller Edition”. This book talks to both those who deal with being bullied as well as the bullies, parents, bystanders, and school officials.
The title references a question the boy in the book asks himself and shows him in his mind what possibilities this brings. He discovers something important during his exploration that changes his circumstances. The new version goes more into what the
bullied (the young boy, Jed) is thinking. It also has a new character who is there to listen to and help Jed. You can learn more about the book by clicking here.
Below is a video trailer about the book as well.
Before I introduce you to http://MakeItBetterRightNow.net (or MIBRN as we like to call ourselves) and some of its members, I would like to thank Alan for all he does in bringing attention to this epidemic around the world called “bullying”. He, like me, believes that by telling our stories; by discussing our issues openly without the fear of being bullied yet again, that we can begin the healing process. Again, Alan, on behalf of the MIBRN community, we thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
Please allow me to introduce myself. My name is Kevin Carey-Infante. I am an author, blogger, teen advocate and creator/administrator of a newly created alternative social media website for teens called http://MakeItBetterRightNow.net. MIBRN is a website created by teens for teens. It’s a safe and secure place for teens to come to get support, as well as learn about issues that matter to them. It’s also a place where teens can come to talk with each other and tell their stories in real-time, without being judged, ridiculed or bullied. MIBRN uses various methods of communication, including messaging, email, open forums, bulletin boards, and a “chat” feature that allows teens from around the world to communicate with each other in real-time. In less than a year, MIBRN has grown into a social media website for all teens – black, white, yellow, red, gay, straight, bisexual, transgendered, the victims of bullying and abuse, and, yes, even the bullies themselves. As long as everyone shows respect for each other and their diverse points of view, everyone is welcome at MIBRN.
MIBRN was born out of the many tragic deaths from teen bullycide (teens who commit suicide because they felt that they could no longer deal with the relentless bullying they were being forced to live with.) Tyler Clementi, Cassidy Joy Andel and Justin Aaberg are just a handful of those souls. One of the features on the MIBRN site is the Honor Roll of Victims of Bullycide. We regularly add a teen who has taken his or her life and tell their story in the hope that we can learn from them and not repeat their actions. MIBRN is committed to ending bullycide in our time.
The MIBRN community also invites those adults who have been there to tell their stories. There is nothing more inspiring to a teen than to hear from those who have been in their shoes and made it to live another day – to hear how they made it better in their lives.
When I told the members of the MIBRN community that Alan had invited me to write a guest blog about MIBRN they asked if they could submit comments for you to read. “This is our site, after all,” Danny told me. I was, of course, more than thrilled that they were eager to participate. Over the past couple of weeks, I have received many comments. Here are but a handful. I present each MIBRN community member by their “Username“. This way, if you would like, when you visit MIBRN, you can reach out to these very special individuals, say hi, and start a conversation.
MigueldeCuba: Hi! My name is Mike. I’m 15-years old and I live in New Jersey. I found MIBRN one day this summer when I was fooling around on my iPad looking for people like me. I get bullied all the time because I don’t fit in. My mom is Cuban and my dad is Irish. Kids call me a zebra and I hate it. The other thing about me is that I am short, so kids think I’m weak. I’m not. I’m pretty strong and I play soccer, and I’m pretty good. I was super lucky to find MIBRN. I have made lots of new friends and Mr. Kevin has helped me a lot. Now I am paying it forward. I met a girl from Canada on the MIBRN chat line. She was really scared in the beginning. I talk to her a lot and now she’s my friend. She’s doing better. My dream is to help Mr. Kevin to make it better for all kids. Mr. Kevin has taught me to want to make a difference. I hope to talk to you soon. Thank you for this time to talk to you. Mike
cookme25: Hi everyone. My name is Hannah. I’m 16-years old and I live in Kentucky. About 2 months ago I wrote this on my MIBRN profile and I really do believe it:
Everything happens for a reason. You may not see it right away but you will. It may be years from now but it will happen. You’ll look back and you’ll see that if that one thing hadn’t happened then everything would have turned out different. You might not have met a person you love or you might not have become the person you are. So just remember, even if it seems like the end of the world, be patient. Everything happens for a reason.
MIBRN is a great place for teens to come together and know they aren’t alone. We all have similar experiences or maybe you find someone who understands what it’s like to be you. It shows you aren’t alone. Hope to meet you soon. Hannah
Sander1998: Hi. My name is Sander. I’m 14-years old and I live in the Netherlands. I found MIBRN when I was doing research on bullycide. This is the best site I found honoring kids who committed bullycide. I really like this site and believe that it can help lots of kids. I hope that it can help you too. Talk to you soon. Sander
KatieRoo: Hey everybody. My name is Katie. I’m 16-years old and I live in Ohio. MIBRN is basically a site where you can come and talk to people who have felt/experienced the same things you have. You are not alone in this world. I have seen a great change in myself in just a few months. There are people out there who are going through the same mess as you. Just remember – you first have to climb the mountain before you can see the beauty. I wrote this on my Message Board last week because I thought it was very important:
Your words/your thoughts ARE powerful/ARE meaningful. If no one listens then speak up until your voice is heard. Be brave in yourself – stand up for yourself for if you don’t believe in your words then who will?
How about just starting a convo with me!… I would love, love, love to just talk! Ok c ya! Katie
DannyL: Hi everyone. My name is Danny and I’m 14-years old. I’m in the 9th grade and I live in San Antonio, TX. To be honest, my uncle is Mr. Kevin’s husband. But even if that were not true I would still love this site. I’m gay and I came out to my mother and my friends at the end of the last school year. I get bullied all the time for being me, but I am learning how to deal with it. I have made lots of friends at MIBRN and they help me a lot. We talk all the time. When I have a question or a problem I can’t answer I will ask Mr. Kevin for his advice because he had many problems and was bullied when he was a kid like me. Mr. Kevin is the best! I think – no – I know – this site will help a lot of kids no matter what they are going thru. I hope to meet you soon. Danny
I couldn’t have said it better gang. Thank you! On behalf of the MIBRN community I would like to invite you all to come over and check us out. Here’s the link:
IT’S YOUR PLANET…MAKE IT BETTER RIGHT NOW
Thank you, Kevin, and all at MIBRN for doing what you do in the battle against bullying. ~Alan Eisenberg
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Books On Bullying
10 Days to a Bully-Proof Child: The Proven Program to Build Confidence and Stop Bullies for Good
A Thinking Man's Bully
The ABC's of Bullying Prevention: A Comprehensive Schoolwide Approach
And Words Can Hurt Forever: How to Protect Adolescents from Bullying, Harassment, and Emotional Violence
Bit Players, Bullies and Righteous Rebels (Volume 2)
Born for Love: Why Empathy Is Essential--and Endangered
The Bully Free Classroom: Over 100 Tips and Strategies for Teachers K-8
Bullied (Book One in the Bullied Series)
Bullies to Buddies: A Revolutionary Guide to Reducing Agression Between Children
Bullies to Buddies: How to Turn Your Enemies Into Friends
BULLY AT AMBUSH CORNER
The Bully in ME
Bullying at School: What We Know and What We Can Do (Understanding Children's Worlds)
Bullying Prevention and Intervention: Realistic Strategies for Schools (The Guilford Practical Intervention in Schools Series)
Bullying Prevention Handbook: A Guide for Principals, Teachers, and Counselors
Bullyproof Your Child For Life: Protect Your Child from Teasing, Taunting, and Bullying for Good
Confessions of a Former Bully
Cyberbullying: Activities to Help Children and Teens to Stay Safe in a Texting, Twittering, Social Networking World (Scm Theological Commentary on)
Cyber-Bullying: Issues and Solutions for the School, the Classroom and the Home
Cyberbullying and Cyberthreats: Responding to the Challenge of Online Social Aggression, Threats, and Distress (Book and CD)
Cyberbullying: What Counselors Need to Know
The Drowning of Stephan Jones
The Fat Boy Chronicles
Girl Wars: 12 Strategies That Will End Female Bullying
Give a Boy a Gun
Good-Bye Bully Machine
Hot Issues, Cool Choices: Facing Bullies, Peer Pressure, Popularity, and Put-downs
How to Be Bully Free Workbook: Word Searches, Mazes, What-Ifs, and Other Fun Activities for Kids (Bully Free Classroom)
How to Handle Bullies, Teasers and Other Meanies: A Book That Takes the Nuisance Out of Name Calling and Other Nonsense
How to Stop Being Teased and Bullied without Really Trying
Internet Safety for Children - A Parent's Practical Guide to Keeping their Children Safe Online
Jacob's Eye Patch
The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander: From Preschool to High School--How Parents and Teachers Can Help Break the Cycle of Violence
Nobody Knew What to Do: A Story about Bullying (Concept Books (Albert Whitman))
Flying Grounded: My Spiritual Triumph Over Female Bullying
I Wish I Knew What To Do?!... On What to Say to Get Bullies to Leave You Alone
The Kids' Guide to Working Out Conflicts: How to Keep Cool, Stay Safe, and Get Along
Little Girls Can Be Mean: Four Steps to Bully-proof Girls in the Early Grades
Making Hostile Words Harmless: A Guide to the Power of Positive Speaking For Helping Professionals and Their Clients
Memoirs of Meanness
My Secret Bully
The New 10: 40 Days to Creating a Boldly Beautiful Life From the Inside Out
No Kidding About Bullying: 125 Ready-to-Use Activities to Help Kids Manage Anger, Resolve Conflicts, Build Empathy, and Get Along (Bully Free Classroom)
No More Bullies: For Those Who Wound or Are Wounded
No Room for Bullies: From the Classroom to Cyberspace Teaching Respect, Stopping Abuse, and Rewarding Kindness
Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls
The Playground Bully Blues
Preventing Bullying in Schools: A Guide for Teachers and Other Professionals
Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World
School Bullying: Insights and Perspectives
The Strawberry Pot
The Strong, Sensitive Boy
Surviving Bullies Workbook: Skills to Help Protect You from Bullying
Taking the Bully by the Horns
Teen Cyberbullying Investigated: Where Do Your Rights End and Consequences Begin?
Tiny Buddha, Simple Wisdom for Life's Hard Questions
The Wounded Spirit
The Too-Tall Troll in the Tiny Tollhouse
We Can Get Along: A Child's Book of Choices
What if I Was Bigger than a Bully?: Storyteller's Edition
Your Child: Bully or Victim? Understanding and Ending Schoolyard Tyranny
Videos on Bullying
ABC News 20/20 Bullies
ABC News Primetime Cyber-Bullying
ABC News Primetime What Would You Do? Reacting to Racists and Bullies
ABC News Specials The "In Crowd" and Social Cruelty
The ABC's of Bullying Prevention: A 4 Video Set
An American Girl: Chrissa Stands Strong
Being Bullied: Strategies And Solutions for People With Asperger's Syndrome (DVD)
Bully 911: Stop Being a Victim
Bullying and Peer Harassment: Why Does it Start, and Who is Affected?
Character Development - Bullying (4 Disc Set)
Defending Yourself: Bullying, Teasing, and Put-Downs
End the Silence: Stop the Bullying
Epilogue (Bullying Prevention Series)
The Fat Boy Chronicles
Frontline: Growing Up Online
Gum in my Hair How to Cope iwth A Bully (ages 8 to 14)
Glass (School Bullying)
Help Kids Deal with Bullies Today and Prevent Bullying Tomorrow
How to Defeat the Bully the Smart Way
Inbox: A Thomas Brown Film
In the Face of Bullying and Taunting: Assert
IN THE MIX - Stop Bullying...Take a Stand!
In the Shoes of Christopher: A story about a bully and a boy with OCD
Kelly Bear Teaches About Bullying
The List (School Bullying)
Odd Girl Out
Real Life Teens: Bullies & Harassment
Reality Matters Cruel Schools (Disocvery Channel, Grades 6-12)
Scars (Bullying Prevention Series)
Stop Bullying: Standing Up for Yourself and Others
Stressball Sally and Friends (Bullying)
Trevor Romain: Bullies Are a Pain in the Brain
Tears on the Highway: Bullying on the School Bus
This Emotional Life
When You See Bullying Happen: What a Bystander Can Do
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