Music Lyrics #5 – Everybody Hurts (R.E.M.)

I will never forget when, in 1983, my sister brought home an album (we called them records or LP back then) called “Murmur” by a new group called R.E.M. We put it on and I was mesmerized by this unique sound and what was to become alternative rock. They were so different. You couldn’t understand one word the singer, Michael Stipe was saying, but the music and sounds were amazing.

No one knew of them yet. But some years later they became more mainstream and popular as their albums and singer became clearer to a bigger new general public. Then, in the early 90’s, R.E.M. released a new album for called “Automatic for the People”. It is an amazing album with not one bad song on the album. But one song touched me and many others who understood the pain of what it felt like to be alone when others are around. The song was called “Everybody Hurts” and every time I hear it, I think about my sister and 1983 and also about holding on through. Yes, this is the second time I have posted this song, but recently R.E.M. decided to end their career together, but their music lives on. That’s how much I think it’s message is one of power. Whether they meant bullying or whatever pain you are in, as R.E.M. says, hold on, you are not alone.

When your day is long and the night
The night is yours alone
When you’re sure you’ve had enough of this life, well hang on
Don’t let yourself go
Everybody cries and everybody hurts sometimes

Sometimes everything is wrong
Now it’s time to sing along
When your day is night alone (hold on, hold on)
If you feel like letting go (hold on)
When you think you’ve had too much of this life, well hang on

Everybody hurts
Take comfort in your friends
Everybody hurts
Don’t throw your hand Oh, no
Don’t throw your hand
If you feel like you’re alone, no, no, no, you are not alone

If you’re on your own in this life
The days and nights are long
When you think you’ve had too much of this life to hang on

Well, everybody hurts sometimes
Everybody cries
And everybody hurts sometimes
And everybody hurts sometimes
So, hold on, hold on
Hold on, hold on
Hold on, hold on
(Hold on, hold on)

Everybody hurts
You are not alone

5 thoughts on “Music Lyrics #5 – Everybody Hurts (R.E.M.)

  1. Hi, Alan. Just found your blog, and am thankful it exists. I suspect I somewhat older than you, but many of the items you listed struck home very directly with me. I was forced out of public school age 16 due to extreme bullying – had cyberbullying existed then, have little idea I would be here still. And yes, I still suffer to some extent each day from what I went rhough over 30 years ago, now.
    I am pleased there are hotlines, blogs like this, and so many resources today which didn’t exist in the early 1980s.

    I was bullied by some teachers, as well, sorry to have to say, by one creep for three grades(and two schools same county), and to some extent, by the principle even at my junior high/high school. If not bullied per-se by him, he at least didn nothing substantial to put a stop to my torment. Sveral of my tormentors were jocks, although I was fairly-large kid myself, well, two, three-on-one attacks don’t work out well for the receipent of the beatings.

    I have survived long enough to confront some of the surviving teachers anyway, they feigned ignorance, of course. Hope to write about the subject myself in the fairly-near future.

    In short, keep up your good work, Alan. While can’t change the past, it does help some know that I am hardly alone in this plight.

    • You are certainly not alone, Jeff. There is a large group of us here to support you. We are all in this together and now the larger world knows the pain of bullying is real. Thanks for your feedback.

      • Hello again, Alan. Thanks for your nice remarks on my comment earlier today. Think I left it wrong spot, but everyone gets my drift anyway, I’m sure. I was unlucky enough go to one of worst junior high/high schools in this part/my state, and being somewhat unusual kid, well, I expereinced some bullying problems in elementary as well, to be frank, low-quality teachers, and so forth.

        Am unfortunate enough to be stuck in same area for var. reasons; and do run into some people I would just as soon never have to see again – one curses of living smaller communities. Know it happenes everywhere, though, of course. In my day, there wasn’t any real media coverage of it at all which has changed, thankfully. One thing which gets to me is some these morons seem believe they should be welcomed as best freinds, or something! Then, they weren’t the ones being hurt, of course…

        Have managed to have some success as a writer in spite of them, and as ment. bef., hope to do a book-length work on the topic fairly-soon. Maybe it can help both myself, and others today going thru the same thing.


      • Very cool. Jeff. I am thinking book as well. If you ever want to share a story here with others please do and email it to me and I will post it.

      • Hi again, Alan. Glad u( and I hope a lot of others) appreciate my comments. Here in my state, it was a struggle to get any anti-bullying laws even passed, but they finally did several years ago. Sorry to say, I still hear some bad stuff at times from my old school despite there being school resource officer, and such there. Not sure if still in effect, but in one these later incidents from past few years, smart phones were banned as a “disruption” in the school. Riggght. They simply didn’t want any photographic evidence which most all of us who went through this know, of course.

        My own suggestion for people having problem now is to consider suing their school system if that is what it takes; in 1980, such was almost unheard of around here, but does happen at times in my state,now, at least. There are number of place which would offer legal advice, and maybe more to people in these situations, so don’t shy away from it.

        I was wondering; how many out there had experience of having the popular “mean girls” set either boyfriends, or other dumb saps onto their case maybe simply because they disliked the person in question(guy or girls, I mean?) This happened w/me a couple’times, led me being attacked in a hallway once, nearly knocked out head slammed against my locker when this “hero” snuck up on me(he ran like hell from then on, of course). Moire than a few, I’m guessing.

        Also think that there are plenty situations where either girl or boyfriends act as enablers to bad situations; least one case where some young women could have helped me somewhat had they cared to do so.

        Thanks again for this blog, Alan – it provides another badly-needed resource for those in these damanable messes.


        PS Or “mean guys,” of course, as the case may be. As the Pheobe Prince tragedy showed, it goes one way as often as the other, I realize. Those creeos got off way too easy, more slaps pn the wrist even with something that sad.

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