I received this personal story from a High School Senior who was asked “What’s the one thing you wish you knew as a Freshman?” She is seeking an answer through her story of being bullied that she shares here. It is another cautionary tale about the power that our new Social Network has. ~Alan Eisenberg
When I was a Junior in High School, I was bullied and harassed. My friends would ask me to drink and do things I didn’t approve of, and when I made up and excuse each time they got mad and eventually got sick of it. I couldn’t help it. If it wasn’t something I was interested in, then I wasn’t going to do it! Around Christmas they got fed up with me saying I didn’t want to hang out. I made new friends and hung out with them instead. At that point they were mad. Some of them decided to make a group about me on Facebook. “Who thinks (Haley) is a hoe”. When I saw that group, my heart-felt like it came to a complete stop, my stomach felt like it dropped. When I told my parents about the group they looked on the group page to see who the “creator” of the group was. Sure enough it was one of my “used to be friends”.
My parents were upset and called the creator of the group’s parents. We asked them to delete the group. And this would be going to the cops as harassment. The group was removed but I still had to face the bullying at school. Another boy would walk past me in class and cough “hoe” in front of everybody. And when he saw me in the hallways he would shout out “hoe” so that everybody could hear him.
I would go to the bathroom or the office and call one of my parents crying my eyes out telling them I wanted to go home. They knew exactly what was going on. The counselor helped me a lot. But sometimes I didn’t want to talk to her, or anybody. I just wanted to get out of that school and go home and cry away from everybody. I kept telling my parents I wanted to move and get away. I told them I was never going back to that school again.
But I had to go, it was school. So the next day I go, and everybody at the lunch table ignores me. So I get up and go to the library. From that day on I always skipped lunch and sat in the library for the next 5 months we had left of school. Nothing got better it only got worse. All my “friends” were in all my classes. We didn’t talk or look at each other. Even the teacher knew something was wrong.
But things still were bad. Nothing would stop them from being mean to me. At this point I hated everybody, I hated going to school, and I hated being in this town! I eventually found new friends during the summer and hung out with new people.
Now I am a Senior at (a high school in Iowa) and we got asked “What is one thing you wish you knew as a freshman?”
And when my teacher said that, I knew exactly what I wished I had known, a and what to expect. Being bullied and harassed changed my life. And it was always have an effect. I had to deal with people each day face to face calling me names and saying mean things about me just because I made the choice not to be like everybody else. I chose to be a leader, not a follower.
I have a friend who is going through this exact same thing as I write this. And I tell her all about what to expect. I wish I had someone who could have talked to me when I was going through all of that. But I am glad to be helping someone else out.
Nobody should have to ever go through this, ever. It’s not fair to anybody and it hurts you so much. If you haven’t got bullied or harassed, you have no idea what it’s like. Nor do you want to find out. Like I said earlier… i got asked “What is one thing you wish you knew as a freshman?” I hope you can help me come up with something, because I’m in need of some help. Thank you.