If You Really Knew Me


MTV has started a new reality program that shines a light on bullying and cliques in High School called “If You Really Knew Me“. This 12 part documentary series is co-created by Challenge Day, an anti-bullying program group for High School Students.

Much like the movie “The Breakfast Club”, this series pulls youths from different cliques together and has them communicate and share to help break diversity and difference issues to create empathy and understanding within the group.

The program shows students that they have the power to break up cliques and put an end to bullying, says Challenge Day CEO Jaime Polson. Teens also see how their words and actions hurt their peers, which usually comes as a surprise. “They often forget just how much power they have and how much they matter to other people,” Polson says.

On July 27, MTV brings Challenge Day to Anthony Wayne High School in Whitehouse, Ohio, where cyberbullying is a major problem.

Cyberbullying can be worse than traditional bullying, says Julie Hartline, a counselor at Campbell High School in Smyrna, Ga.: “There’s a greater exposure, which causes the student to feel even more singled out because more people are aware of what’s being done to them.”

Sela Gaglia, a Challenge Day leader for 11 years, says the program teaches teens that they don’t have to be “victims of their surroundings.” (USA Today)

The concept of the show is to show that, even with diversity, the students are not that much different from each other. Breaking down the barriers that create animosity and hate are key hopes of this program. In a USA Today article, the Challenge Day team discusses this further.

Polson says bullying stops when teens feel comfortable in their own skin, and Challenge Day helps do that. “Most students walk away feeling like they really got a chance to show who they were,” she says.

I’m not totally sold on this concept being a solution to bullying, but certainly think that open communication among diverse groups help create empathy among the participants. That certainly should reduce bullying among those that are involved in the program.

3 thoughts on “If You Really Knew Me

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  2. I appreciate your shout-out to “If You Really Knew Me.” Great series for all of us who care of the well-being of kids. Every student has the right to a safe environment in which to learn. When we don’t feel safe (physically and/or emotionally) none of us (not kids or adults) can possibly reach our potential and grow in positive ways. While peer abuse (call it teasing, bullying, harassment, exclusionary behavior, whatever ) has many causes, there is no one solution. The stake-holders of each school community (students, parents, teachers, counselors, administrators, staff), must come together to acknowledge how we each have contributed to the ‘unsafe’ environment in our schools. Our contribution to the Culture of Cruelty comes through what we do and/or what we fail to do. What we permit we promote. Once we acknowledge our contribution to the abuse, we can then work together to collectively support, encourage, demand and enforce safer schools where all students feel accepted all the time. Cruel’s Not Cool! http://cruelsnotcool.com

  3. This sounds like a really neat show, but there are some people SO cruel that they could take the info they learned and turn it around against people who confess weakness or failings in their home. Some people in schools are really so soulless and evil that they would do that.

    I’m sorry if this is negative. An antibullying program similar to this came to my school in the 90’s and the girls I got stuck with probably spouted lies while I spilled my soul, and they never let me forget it.

    I wish luck to all the people this helps, but it didn’t help me.

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