I just read and wanted to share a blog post I found on another site called “I Said, You Said“. This mother of a young boy is dealing with her son being accused of bullying on the first day of summer camp. In fact the victim’s mother took it as far as to call the police in.
What I found interesting is that this mother is seeing it from the perspective of surprise that her son is accused of bullying. In the article, she says:
It seems like you can’t open a newspaper or turn on the TV without reading or hearing a story about bullying. Well, yesterday my son was accused of being a bully, and I’m horrified.
My horror extends to two fronts. One, because I obviously think bullying is awful and don’t think any child should have to suffer through that torment. Secondly, I know my son well and he is no bully. There must be a misunderstanding. I’m sure all parents say that, but I really mean it! There has to be a mix-up.
According to witnesses at the scene, this is what happened: A boy named “John” approached my son and another boy. He wanted to play kickball with them but the game was already in process. “John” then took the ball he was holding in his hands and threw it at the boys. The other boy threw the ball off the field and into a nearby field. “John” took off his baseball hat and began hitting both boys. The boys backed away but “John” continued hitting them. Then, both boys picked up their pool towels and snapped them at “John”. At this point, a camp counselor stepped in and advised the boys to stop and they did.
She goes on to say later, the police arrive to question her son about the incident. It seems the boy is accusing her son of bullying him all school year as well. You can read the full article here. Now I have no idea of the case and truth, but the mother of this boy is surprised about the police being called. I personally think we are going to see more of a trend of police being involved in cases of accused bullying.
Right or wrong, bullying is now heavily in the news and people are trying to pass laws to prevent bullying now. As these new laws are attempting to be passed, it only makes sense that the police will become more involved in bullying incidents.
In the past, the idea of physical contact between kids would be called “Boys Being Boys” was accepted by society as the norm. But I believe those days are over now with a new trend to view physical violence among youth, particularly in bullying situations, as assault, the same as would be the case with adults.
As parents get informed either one way or the other that their children are accused as bullies, I would recommend to them to take it seriously and advise their children of the consequences of even being accused as a bully. I do believe that as laws try to be passed, physical violence between children can and will be prosecuted as assault, if for no other reason then to set precedent for future cases.