Clark McKown, who Fox TV identifies as a lead bullying researcher, is saying that the kids that get picked on by bullies have a problem reading and understanding non-verbal communication. This researcher places the issue of bullying square on the shoulders of the one who is being bullied. I’m giving you this information, but not sure I truly believe it. While there may be truth to the study, to say that the victim has brought on the bullying by their inability to read non-verbal cues is equal in my eyes in saying a woman who is raped should have been able to predict this based on the way they behaved with the rapist.
While my opinion might create an argument, I’m all for that, because I really feel this kind of research is detrimental in getting to the real future solution, which to me is based on making the consequences for bullying more dramatic and helping victims and the bullies through better counselling.
Mr. McKown goes on to say that bullying victims should get help by parents by the parent:
- Asking the child to identify their mistake
- Help the child identify the non-verbal missed cue
- Create an imaginary, but similar scenario to help teach the child to see the non-verbal cue
Well, I am speechless here. To ask a parent to try to figure this out with the child this way doesn’t seem realistic to me. Also, there are children that I know who have mild forms of autism or Asperger’s Syndrome that just don’t have the cognitive ability to pick up on these things. And yes, most of them deal with bullying issues. But shouldn’t we spend our time working with the bullies to help them understand what they are doing wrong? Anyway, here’s the video and you can judge for yourself. Would love feedback on this one. What are your thoughts to his study and belief?