Another Good Bully Blog

I came across another good bully blog called “PSSST! BULLIES ARE B-O-R-I-N-G!” In the about area, it explains it’s written by a mom of a boy who spoke up about a bully and the school did nothing. Not an uncommon theme in any of these bully story sites. Take a visit to the site. It’s got some good articles and links. The about section says:

I’m the proud mom of a young man who spoke up about the bully who was standing in the way of his getting an education. A wonderful kid, my fifth-grade son attended a well-respected private school in Dallas. And while his classmates were learning reading, math, social studies, science and other academic subjects, my son was struggling daily to manage a bully.

Once my son spoke up, it didn’t take our family long to realize the answer to the problem was to leave the school. The institution had no formal policy surrounding bullying, was unwilling to punish the bully, did not make the bully apologize, and was ultimately unable to curtail the bullying.

As the parents of survivors of bullying will tell you, that is a very typical experience. Schools seldom act effectively to stop bullying. If you think I’m wrong about that, go report the bullying at your school and see what happens. You may be surprised. We were. Never would we have dreamed that the school would value the bully over the student being bullied. This blog is an effort to help educate everyone about bullying, and hopefully make progress to stop it, so that kids who go to school to learn will be able to do so.

6 thoughts on “Another Good Bully Blog

  1. See the story of a lecturer convicted of harassment for having open a website,, where he aired documented factual concerns about the way the higher education is managed in Kingston University departments, i.e: bullying at the work place, manipulation of -or attempts of manipulating- results and external reports into performance of the university, etc. Although a police report has declared that the website does not contain elements which could amount to harassment, a magistrate of the Crown Prosecution Services, Judith Jewell has convicted Dr Howard Fredrics for harassment. It seems there is being inconsistent findings between the police report and the outcome by the magistrate who is also a governor of Roehampton University which is, together with Kingston University, part of Westfocus Consortium. Peoples have raised by posting at the Time Higher Education website concerns of conflict of interests in the magistrate’s role of judging Dr Howard Fredrics as being also governor of a University affiliate to Kingston University through Westfocus Consortioun.

    Please read the posts and if you like, sign the petition which is aimed to address radically the problem of bullying, which although in the petition is mentioned to be a concern regarding the Higher Education, it is very likely it will influence and regulate cases in other field of human work environment where bullying is very determinant in poisoning the workplace.

  2. An update to this story on my conviction…on 22 July, 2010, a District Judge sitting before the Kingston Magistrates’ Court found “no case to answer” and dismissed the charge of harassment. In his ruling, the Judge indicated that the harassment laws were NOT intended to protect a person’s reputation, that any criticisms on the website were directed at professional activities, rather than being of a personal nature, and that in any event, there was nothing contained within the site that could form the basis for a charge of harassment.

  3. “Workplace violence is any act against an employee that creates a hostile work environment and negatively affects the employee either physically or psychologically. Bullying is a non-homicidal form of violence and a systematic campaign that jeopardizes your health, your career, your family and the job you once loved. And because it is violent , emotional and physical harm results. Bullies are not psychopaths. They are normal people who get very aggressive at work. And it is not about you”.(
    To date there are ten employees including myself who have been subjected to various forms of repeated harassing, malicious, cruel and humiliating attempts to undermine us by the same manager, in the same department, in the same facility in southern New Hampshire. Four employees have been terminated while the others have left because of the emotional toll it was taking on their health. Having worked with eight of these wonderful people I can attest to their character, professionalism, skill, loyalty and genuine care for the people in the community. One employee was tormented and terminated after 38 years of service excellence. She was constantly ordered into meetings without any warning or support and subjected to being yell at, intimidated, belittled and routinely threatened with termination. She was humiliated and tormented by words, intonations and attacks on her character even though her work performance and yearly reviews were very good. Another employee from the same department was terminated last week. I was terminated from this department after 28 years of continuous, loyal service to this facility. Like the other employees my evaluations were great, coworkers enjoyed working with me and my patients appreciated all that I did for them. I had received a substantial pay raise 5 months before the torment and bullying began because the management said they ” appreciated the years of dedication, professionalism and ability to be a team player.
    What we all have in common is the fact we were subjected to emotional distress and psychological harassment over a period of time resulting in mental and physical distress. By this managers words, intonations and actions he created an environment that was hostile and offensive. And the documentation about each encounter we had with this bully was twisted, inaccurate and crafted to be so hurtful we were doubting our sanity. .
    Sadly the administration including Human Resources were aware of the hostile work environment within this department and did nothing to prevent or abate the problem. We begged them for help but were just sent back to the bully for ‘conflict resolution” . Stopping workplace violence requires more than mere “conflict resolution”. We were offered counseling but only at the hands of this abuser.
    Workplace violence is an occupational and safety health hazard and addressed by OSHA in their guidelines for preventing workplace violence for healthcare and social service workers. (OSHA 3148-01R2004). I would be interested in knowing the cost of mental and physical ill health that this stress has caused on not only the abused employee but to all the others that witnessed the abuse and were too afraid for their jobs to say anything. I know I ended up in the emergency room with chest pains after a particularly cruel meeting, sought out psychological counseling and took two weeks of short term disability to try and process what was happening to me.
    On January 7, 2010 a legislature from Hinsdale, New Hampshire proposed legislation (House Bill 1403) designed to provide legal protection for workers subjected to an abusive and hostile work environment. Several of us who were negatively impacted by this cruel and evil manager shared our experiences before the House Labor, Industrial and Rehabilitative Services Committee in Concord, NH. Sadly the proposed bill went no farther. Hopefully with public awareness, a new administration and claims of abuse causing medical malpractice to soar due to bullying employees and patient injury we can say that bullying in the workplace is wrong financially and morally. It shouldn’t hurt to go to work.
    I found a wonderful website that is designed for employees that have been bullied. This site is designed for bullied individuals to help educate in hopes of making a difference in your health ,and, in return, your life.
    Thank you for listening.

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