Part of the bullying problem is the stress and anxiety that goes along with it. I was so impressed with Kelly McGonigal and her TED Talk about stress and how you can change your thinking to make it work for you that I had to share it here. Can you make stress your friend and learn how to live better and longer with it? I think you will find it as helpful and learn so much by what she has to say here.
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In an article in Psychology Today, written by Ronald E. Riggio, Ph.D., he discusses a recent fully funded study of how childhood bullying effects adults later in life.
The results showed that the long-term negative effects of bullying are not only real, but have real consequences. The study showed that:
- Bullies and their victims had poorer adult health issues, with bully victims having worse health issues.
- Bullies and bully victims are more likely to engage in risky behaviors such as drug use and risky sex.
- Bullies, bully victims both had poor educational attainment and made less income than adults who had not been involved in bullying.
As the study explains in it’s conclusion:
Being bullied is not a harmless rite of passage or an inevitable part of growing up but throws a long shadow over affected children’s lives. Victims, in particular chronic victims and bully-victims, are at increased risk for adverse health, financial, and social outcomes in adulthood.
These effects prove that the long-term problems for both the bully and the bullied are real and why I feel that we must address them when these people are children with corrective psychological help so that these issues can be avoided as they enter adulthood.
I think it is so important that we address these issues, so that we can work to resolve the long-term impact that bullying has on our lives.
Every time around this year, I think of all the children returning to school or getting ready to return. I also think about those dreading that time or that will dread it after suffering with bullies during the year. Certainly, 2013 has seen more and more press about bullying. Certainly, more awareness is around today and the community rules and laws are starting to change.
2013 also saw the release of the major documentary “Bully” in movie theaters and a movement toward a reaction of less acceptance of bullying behavior. These are all positive things, but as seen in the movie “Bully” and in the news about kids being bullied and bullycide due to bullying, there is still much to do.
Further to the issue is the one that is the theme of this site, the long-term effects of bullying. More studies are showing that adults suffer from the bullying they either received or did during their informative school years. Just today, NPR released an article called “Kids Involved in Bullying Grow Up To Be Poorer, Sicker Adults”.
In the article, the author, Nancy Shute, discusses the research done recently at Duke University that shows that kids that dealt with bullying have more health, financial, and job issues as they mature. The article quotes researcher William Copeland’s findings.
“These kids are continuing to have significant problems in their lives, years after the bullying has stopped,” says William Copeland, an associate professor at Duke University School of Medicine and a co-author of the study, which was published in Psychological Science. “It really is a significant public health concern.”
…Researchers tested the health of 1,273 children ages 9 to 13 in western North Carolina, starting back in 1993. Participants were assessed annually until age 16, and then at 19, 21, and 24 to 26 years old. Parents were also asked whether their child had been involved in bullying…
About one-quarter of the children said they had been bullied. Another 8 percent said they had bullied others. And 6 percent said they had been on both the sending and receiving end.
Victims of bullying were more likely to have problems as adults, and were more likely to smoke, use marijuana, or consider themselves to be in poor health.
Former bullies didn’t fare much better from the study data and as has already been discussed here. These long-term effects also include mental disorders as has been discussed in other studies as well. There is a fine line between physical and mental health and this problem works on both ends.
So, at the end of the day and as we enter to another school year, I hope that more notice will be taken to the children around us. Do you see and ignore it, because you still feel kids are being kids? Studies are showing that then kids become adults who then are suffering. As we start another year, I hope you will remember that these long-term effects are showing to be real and that we must work to resolve and recover the bullied and the bullies so that they can have a more productive adult life after the bullying ends.
A few posts ago, I mentioned the documentary “This Emotional Life”, which PBS aired in 2010. I missed it then and have only recently watched it. I regret not watching it before and sharing what it says in it here. I think it is a documentary not only about bullying, but in many cases about the kinds of people who get bullied and the long-term effects it can have.
There are two particular segments that come to mind along with the original one I posted about bullying a little while back. Those are the segment about Asperger’s Syndrome and the loneliness that comes with it and the segment on depression and the findings on that. I have included part of the Asperger’s segment below:
What makes this so powerful is that this 29 year old man is still working on finding himself and working past the loneliness of his youth. How did that affect him in the long-term? I have a friend who’s son has lived with Asperger’s syndrome his whole life and is very similar to the person in the story above. Few friends, very smart in certain areas, low social skills, and a want to be something they are not. They teeter on the edge of wanting a normal life and the danger of more severe autism. But they are human, like us.
It is hard to watch, at least for me, without feeling that somehow it was a very hard childhood. You can see and hear it in his brother’s words as well. There is another segment on depression, with a focus on teen depression and yet another segment on PTSD. What was interesting in the depression segment in particular is how it talked about how those that feel this way don’t want to feel this way and scientists are finding differences (physical) in the brain that may explain it. Could it be that, even as children, there are pre-dispositions that would lead them to be bullied and then lead to further depression.
I look to myself, the WORRIER, that then led to chronic anxiety, some panic (normal with anxiety) and then depression about it all. If my brain is scanned, would it have always been different from others? Is that why I would react when picked on while others would not and be left alone? I believe there are some answers here and have very much (enjoyed not being the right word) gotten a lot from watching this particular show. I do think these studies that this show explores and those that suffer with worry, anxiety, panic, and ultimately depression and PTSD should be looked at further during youth to see if there are predictors that could be picked up.
Since my own scare with anxiety and depression I have picked up reading a lot of books on the subject. There is much to be said for the fight that must be done to defeat panic and anxiety and ultimately depression. There is no short term cure and there is no magic trick to make the feelings inside those of us change. It is part of who we are. We seek love, comfort, to be liked, self-confidence, happiness, satisfaction. But the important word is seek. It is always a part of a journey and at some point it is a realization that it is the journey that matters. Once you reach the destination, what is left? Seek and then find and then seek again. I remember that empathy is the lesson when it comes to understanding others. You don’t have to be like them to understand them. Learn from videos like the one above and then understand this is how some feel and find empathy to help when needed. And remember, when you need help, reach out and ask. I’m sure someone will answer.
Time recently reported that sibling bullying has as much long-term damage as regular school bullying. A study by the University of New Hampshire shows how the bullying that siblings do to each other can have lasting legacy effects.
In order to study any differences between the effects of sibling bullying and those of being threatened by an unrelated bully, the researchers compared the effects of aggressive behaviors, such as physical violence, breaking or taking toys or belongings, and abuse, like name-calling or taunting, originating from siblings with those coming from children’s unrelated peers. They concluded that as far as mental-health effects are concerned, the relationship that the victims had with their bullies didn’t seem to matter. The findings showed that sibling bullying had the same association with increased anxiety, depression and trauma as peer aggression.
Read more of this article at: http://healthland.time.com/2013/06/17/bullying-in-the-family/#ixzz2WhtICqvL.
You can also watch this segment from Good Morning America that covered the story as well.
It shows that the damage done is more about the action, then it is always about the people. It’s not just the corner bully, but maybe your brother or sister as well.
According to the website onlinemba.com, there are nine signs that workplace bullying might be a problem at your office. According to a Washington State Department of Labor & Industries report, 47 million American workers or about 46% of them, say they have had to deal with bullying at work this year and about 15 million U.S. workers or about 13% of the workforce had it happen to them at least once during a week’s time.
These are staggering numbers, but is it surprising? I hear often from folks saying they deal with bullying at work. The nine signs as stated from the onlinemba.com website are:
- Nobody feels as if their accomplishments amount to much of anything
- You’re all sick
- Turnover rates and absences increase
- It’s chronic
- Criticism comes without evidence
- The overarching office culture rewards it
I won’t go through at the details of these, you can visit their site to see more information. They have more details on each and links to other information about workplace bullying.
It is important to remember that bullying doesn’t just happen at schools. It is a systemic problem that we need to address at all levels.
Drexel University Online contacted me to let me know they are offering a free seminar on bullying. Drexel is teaming up with the university’s Center for the Prevention of School-Aged Violence to sponsor a live online Bullying Webinar hosted by Drexel University professor and Philadelphia-based youth advocate Dr. Chuck Williams.
The webinar titled, “Bullying: What Every Educator Should Know and Do”, will take place online on Thursday February 23rd from 6 to 8 p.m. Eastern Standard Time. Visit www.drexel.com/bullyingwebinar to register today!
The webinar is aimed at providing educators, school counselors, parents, and anyone interested in stymying this growing trend with the skills to identify and prevent bullying in schools.
By exploring four comprehensive modules, Dr. Williams will walk participants through an introduction to the social and psychological causes of bullying, including an exploration of both bully and victim profiles, followed by basic and advanced prevention strategies.
If you require CE credits, Webinar participants will be able to earn two Continuing Education (CE) credits for attending the event live.
Additionally, Dr. Williams (@drchuckwilliams) and Drexel University Online (@DrexelOnline) will be tweeting live during the event with the tag #bullywebinar to provide an opportunity for parties to directly ask both Dr. Williams and Drexel questions in real-time throughout the streaming webcast.
Please visit www.drexel.com/bullyingwebinar for more information and to register today.
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Books On Bullying
10 Days to a Bully-Proof Child: The Proven Program to Build Confidence and Stop Bullies for Good
A Thinking Man's Bully
The ABC's of Bullying Prevention: A Comprehensive Schoolwide Approach
And Words Can Hurt Forever: How to Protect Adolescents from Bullying, Harassment, and Emotional Violence
Bit Players, Bullies and Righteous Rebels (Volume 2)
Born for Love: Why Empathy Is Essential--and Endangered
The Bully Free Classroom: Over 100 Tips and Strategies for Teachers K-8
Bullied (Book One in the Bullied Series)
Bullies to Buddies: A Revolutionary Guide to Reducing Agression Between Children
Bullies to Buddies: How to Turn Your Enemies Into Friends
BULLY AT AMBUSH CORNER
The Bully in ME
Bullying at School: What We Know and What We Can Do (Understanding Children's Worlds)
Bullying Prevention and Intervention: Realistic Strategies for Schools (The Guilford Practical Intervention in Schools Series)
Bullying Prevention Handbook: A Guide for Principals, Teachers, and Counselors
Bullyproof Your Child For Life: Protect Your Child from Teasing, Taunting, and Bullying for Good
Confessions of a Former Bully
Cyberbullying: Activities to Help Children and Teens to Stay Safe in a Texting, Twittering, Social Networking World (Scm Theological Commentary on)
Cyber-Bullying: Issues and Solutions for the School, the Classroom and the Home
Cyberbullying and Cyberthreats: Responding to the Challenge of Online Social Aggression, Threats, and Distress (Book and CD)
Cyberbullying: What Counselors Need to Know
The Drowning of Stephan Jones
The Fat Boy Chronicles
Girl Wars: 12 Strategies That Will End Female Bullying
Give a Boy a Gun
Good-Bye Bully Machine
Hot Issues, Cool Choices: Facing Bullies, Peer Pressure, Popularity, and Put-downs
How to Be Bully Free Workbook: Word Searches, Mazes, What-Ifs, and Other Fun Activities for Kids (Bully Free Classroom)
How to Handle Bullies, Teasers and Other Meanies: A Book That Takes the Nuisance Out of Name Calling and Other Nonsense
How to Stop Being Teased and Bullied without Really Trying
Internet Safety for Children - A Parent's Practical Guide to Keeping their Children Safe Online
The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander: From Preschool to High School--How Parents and Teachers Can Help Break the Cycle of Violence
Nobody Knew What to Do: A Story about Bullying (Concept Books (Albert Whitman))
Flying Grounded: My Spiritual Triumph Over Female Bullying
I Wish I Knew What To Do?!... On What to Say to Get Bullies to Leave You Alone
The Kids' Guide to Working Out Conflicts: How to Keep Cool, Stay Safe, and Get Along
Little Girls Can Be Mean: Four Steps to Bully-proof Girls in the Early Grades
Making Hostile Words Harmless: A Guide to the Power of Positive Speaking For Helping Professionals and Their Clients
Memoirs of Meanness
My Secret Bully
The New 10: 40 Days to Creating a Boldly Beautiful Life From the Inside Out
No Kidding About Bullying: 125 Ready-to-Use Activities to Help Kids Manage Anger, Resolve Conflicts, Build Empathy, and Get Along (Bully Free Classroom)
No More Bullies: For Those Who Wound or Are Wounded
No Room for Bullies: From the Classroom to Cyberspace Teaching Respect, Stopping Abuse, and Rewarding Kindness
Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls
The Playground Bully Blues
Preventing Bullying in Schools: A Guide for Teachers and Other Professionals
Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World
School Bullying: Insights and Perspectives
The Strong, Sensitive Boy
Surviving Bullies Workbook: Skills to Help Protect You from Bullying
Taking the Bully by the Horns
Teen Cyberbullying Investigated: Where Do Your Rights End and Consequences Begin?
The Wounded Spirit
The Too-Tall Troll in the Tiny Tollhouse
We Can Get Along: A Child's Book of Choices
What if I Was Bigger than a Bully?: Storyteller's Edition
Your Child: Bully or Victim? Understanding and Ending Schoolyard Tyranny
Videos on Bullying
ABC News 20/20 Bullies
ABC News Primetime Cyber-Bullying
ABC News Primetime What Would You Do? Reacting to Racists and Bullies
ABC News Specials The "In Crowd" and Social Cruelty
The ABC's of Bullying Prevention: A 4 Video Set
An American Girl: Chrissa Stands Strong
Being Bullied: Strategies And Solutions for People With Asperger's Syndrome (DVD)
Bully 911: Stop Being a Victim
Bullying and Peer Harassment: Why Does it Start, and Who is Affected?
Character Development - Bullying (4 Disc Set)
Defending Yourself: Bullying, Teasing, and Put-Downs
End the Silence: Stop the Bullying
Epilogue (Bullying Prevention Series)
The Fat Boy Chronicles
Frontline: Growing Up Online
Gum in my Hair How to Cope iwth A Bully (ages 8 to 14)
Glass (School Bullying)
Help Kids Deal with Bullies Today and Prevent Bullying Tomorrow
How to Defeat the Bully the Smart Way
Inbox: A Thomas Brown Film
In the Face of Bullying and Taunting: Assert
IN THE MIX - Stop Bullying...Take a Stand!
In the Shoes of Christopher: A story about a bully and a boy with OCD
Kelly Bear Teaches About Bullying
The List (School Bullying)
Odd Girl Out
Real Life Teens: Bullies & Harassment
Reality Matters Cruel Schools (Disocvery Channel, Grades 6-12)
Scars (Bullying Prevention Series)
Stop Bullying: Standing Up for Yourself and Others
Stressball Sally and Friends (Bullying)
Trevor Romain: Bullies Are a Pain in the Brain
Tears on the Highway: Bullying on the School Bus
This Emotional Life
When You See Bullying Happen: What a Bystander Can Do
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