About the Bullying: Long Term Effects Documentary Film
The documentary film, working title “Bullying: Long Term Effects” will begin shooting in the near future. We are currently trying to line up interviews with well-known and not so well-known adults who wish to contribute their stories and feelings about bullying to the documentary.
We are also looking for funding for this project. Our dream is to create a documentary that can be played in theaters as well as in educational classrooms. We would also like to have a support website that will allow for active communication on the subject from an educational standpoint.
If you are interested in being interviewed or can help with funding options to make this project a reality, please contact me at: bullyinglte@yahoo.com
October 31, 2007: I’ve got a working title for the film. It will be called “8 Days Lost: The Long-term Effects of Bullying”. If you don’t know why I’m going with that title, read my blog called “The Long & Winding Road”
My husband and son are both dyslexic. My husband is a physician but his life is not a success because of his bulling experiences as achild.He has low regard for himself ,has rage issues and is basically sad. This became more evident when our son was bullied for years when we moved to Fla.The bullying was emotionally unbearable, by retaliatin of the school district.My husband was in denial when I needed him most.He could not advocate effectively ,it was too painful I suppose and I was too emotional.I was in a hyper anxiety state . bullying destroyed all of us for a while.We are trying to work through it all and we going for family counciling .Iknow my husband would want to help others by telling his story
I have had a very similar experience as the writer above has had. I would very much like to share our story with you. I am considering sueing the school district for the lack of support they gave to my son. We have actually had to move so my son can go to another school, (not public). Our family is also now in counseling dealing with this. Why do the victims have to pay the price. I am very concerned for my sons future. He was a very thoughtful, loving child. He always wanted to make friends and always stood up for the underdog. Now at 14 he is trying to deal with on-going anger issues, anxiety and low self worth. I am a counselor for families and children, and I see this problem becoming much more prevelent over the last few years. I can speculate on the many reasons as to why. I am hoping your documentary will shed some light as to why this is such a rampent problem, why schools are not stopping it, and what we can do to protect the victims and help the perpatrators.
Please contact me any time so I can support your efforts and project.
Sincerely,
Dianne
I was bullied in middle school, and today I am a teacher in middle school. I see bullying every day, and I promise you it makes my blood boil. I remember having to walk a different way in the hall each day, the terror I felt when I did end up seeing her, and the taunting day in and day out from her and her friends. Kids are so cruel.The school did not protect me, and finally my parents pulled me out the last few weeks before 8th grade graduation. I was a good kid, making good grades, and it all started over a boy that this girl liked, who liked me?! I think it is so strange how you can be terrified by someone you really don’t even know. My experience with bullying, does help me to advocate against bullying in my school. At least I can positively pay it forward.
awe that sucks dude
i fell your pain im being bullyed and its sad
I was born as the 4th child. I was bullied at home, and add to fact I was very small for my age I was also a prime target all the school kids. The bulling at home left me scared and with very low self esteem, and no self confidence. This put a hugh target on my back for bullies at school. Now 35 yrs later not much has changed about my low esteem no self confidence. And I also have no ambition and a complete fear of confrontation of any kind. I remember every bully vividly and still have nightmares about those times.
I am 19 going on 20 years old and suffer from a high functioning form of Asperger’s Syndrome. After I left a school for special needs children – teens (a school which I went to for 5 years and had no summer programs), I entered my freshman year at high school. I did have a history of many high functioning autistic tendencies in childhood years. Although I tended to do my best to follow the code of conduct, succeed in work completion, and make friends, I did have some issues which made me oblivious to certain things. I tried making friends, including those in my special education program. It has been been said typically that when you make friends, you have to get to know each other a bit. But that was one mistake I made. I didn’t expect peers at the school to be so immature and obnoxious. Even whatever I said, especially with certain topics, would make some students feel stunned or laugh. Although it was embarrassing and I could tell they thought it was awkward, I couldn’t tell why they would think I was being awkward with whatever I said. No matter how friendly and helpful peers were towards me, a number of them bullied me for one main reason. They made crying noises at me, because I couldn’t stand to hear the sound of crying, especially from babies. Even when movies where on, I walked out of the crying scenes. I have told teachers / staff members / security / even my social counselor about my situations. I always did this so some disciplinary action would be brought on those who tend and prone to belittle me like I’m a nothing / chode / you name it and I’m the weak link. I have learned that students with special needs and developmental disabilities who go to mainstream public schools and attend mainstream classes become easy targets for bullying. This included an overwhelming number of students with Autism Spectrum Disorders (including Asperger’s Syndrome).
-Obsessive interests, activities, and topics of conversation,
-limited interests,
-illiteracy to body language, facial expressions, emotions, seriousness, what others think
-few or no friends,
-sensitivities, anxiety, fears of certain situations / things, emotional problems,
-predilection for certain routines,
-incredible knowledge of interests / academics and little knowledge learning and understanding of other academics or other certain things,
-lack of appropriate social skills,
-weak communication skills,
-some speech problems,
-Social Awkwardness despite ways of understanding the world and environment,
-repetitive behaviors,
-clumsiness
-little awarness
-sometimes speech problems and little eye contact are evident
-shyness
All this is evident within an individual struggling with life with Asperger’s Syndrome.
Anyone has strength and weakness, including those who have special needs, no matter what functioning level.
I just came across this page. I experienced bullying as a child. The school did nothing except giving my parents bad advice. My teacher told them just to forget about the issue and it would pas by itself. It did not. As an adult I experienced bullying at work. I could not work for a while and decided to get help. The health professionals I talked with did not have any knowledge about the issue of bullying and basicly told me it was my foult. I could not accept that and started to look for information on my own. Because of my education I can read research papires, and have a good understanding of what is being discussed in the papire. The future looks bright. I have a good job. And for the first time in my life I actually enjoy my work.
i would like to make a documentary about this subjet so important in this mind world, thanks all of you for give me a bit exjample about bullying and how bad is live with this kind of people around as.
I have a daughter in 4th grade right now who has been bullied all year long and the school has known about it and they have done nothing to protect her or help her. I tell them she is my hero and they laugh at me. but she gets up and goes to school everyday with kids who make fun of her for no particular reason. she does have adhd and odd and bipolar and she is lacking certain social skills and the school refuses to put her in a social skills group (which they have) to help her better deal with these bullies. They say she’s had social skills groups and she should have enough skills to deal with these situations but she she doesn’t my question to them is how can she use skills she doesn’t have?? I asked my daughter if the teachers see and know about the bullying and she said yes they just look the other way?? I have been on the schools back since day one they have done nothing to help her does anyone out there have any ideas on how to handle this? I’ve already hired an attorney she said it would be hard to get the city to pay for my daughter to go to a different school because she is very bright and can still mantain her grades. I say what do we have to do wait till she has a breakdown? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I cry every night after I put her to bed. She’s 9.
My 13-year old daughter was diagnosed with Non-verbal Learning Disorder (NLD) which falls under the spectrum of Asperger’s. Much of what you experienced and the symptoms you describe are exactly or very similar to what she’s going through. She’s socially awkward with her peers and to add to her social difficulties, she’s quite overweight and is relentlessly harassed and bullied by kids at school (both boys and girls). She’s not like most of the girls at her school, i.e., she doesn’t wear make-up, isn’t into fashion, doesn’t swear, is quite shy, is quiet and respectful to teachers, has only one friend that she hangs out with at school at school. Several mean girls have been passing rumors at school that she’s gay, that her one and only friend is her “girlfriend.” One called her a “big fat pig with hair” (she’s got thick wavy hair) and told her she needed liposuction. She has called me from school in tears and embarrassment over things they’ve said and done. I’ve complained to the school many, many times and the harassment continuess as she becomes more and more depressed and her grades continue to plummet. It’s my intent now to file formal harassment charges against the main “players” as well as the school for failing to protect her by taking action against the main perpetrators. I can truly understand the suffering you went through at school as a result of the cruelty and rudeness of ignorant kids who thought they were so much better and “cooler” than you and the betrayal you must have felt from teachers and school staff for doing nothing when reported. Shame on them! You sound like someone who would make a great mentor for kids who are dealing with these issues. Just keep your head held high, be yourself, and know that you’re ten times a better person than any of tho bullies you’ll encounter in your life!
What is the status of your documentary film? Are you still working on it?
Yes, Nikki, I am still at work on it. Best laid plans and all, it’s still in development as they say. I am working on storyboarding some of it and then still trying to time trips and interviews.
Hello,
I unfortunately have been the target of long term bullying within the workplace. I have always considered myself a strong individual and have worked in industries that relied on such qualties. If you would have told me before I started in my new role in 2005 that I would end up being diagnosed with PTS, Depression and Anxiety due to ongoing bullying from my peers I would have told you that you were crazy. In 2009 I am still suffering the impact of what I have endured, and the total lack of understanding, support etc from management made it worse. I have attempted suicide, giving my children back to my ex husband and returning my long term foster son back to DOCS, leaving my husband. I have 2 daughters who do not speak to me and it is not that they don’t love me, its because they are scared. Families are the unforseen victims of bullying, what I have put them through. I would like to help anyone who is trying to deal with this and help people to understand what it is like to go through this.